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Establish the Best Home You Can

Don’t let the divorce distract you from being an attentive parent. Keep-up with your children’s activities and create a stable, safe home environment for them. If necessary, arrange for counseling to help them through the transition. No matter how bad your marriage is, it’s rarely a good idea to move-out of the marital home and leave your children with your spouse. It indicates to a judge that you think your spouse is a great parent and is perfectly capable of taking care of your children. If your spouse leaves, that’s OK, but make sure the children stay with you.

Keep a Diary

Begin keeping a daily record of everything you do with your children, and include the time they spend with their other parent as well. Make note of any negative events, such as arguments started in front of your children or ridiculing comments made about you in their presence. If your spouse fails to show-up to pick-up the children as scheduled, write it down.

Collect Proof

Gather documentation to support the things you’ve said in your diary. This might involve lining- up witnesses who can eventually testify about your parenting skills and/or your spouse’s, or documenting incidents with police reports or school records.

Your spouse might be doing the same thing, so gather proof to explain any iffy situations your spouse might try to use against you. Divorce can be a battle that involves much more than your children, so take steps to protect your own interests as well. This includes making copies of any documentation that relates to your finances, such as bank records, mortgages, credit card statements, car loans or retirement account statements. Pay stubs that prove your respective incomes are important as well.

Be Smart about Social Media Use

Social Media is not the place to air-out your dirty marital laundry or to criticize your spouse. You should also give thought to what you post about yourself and your activities, and what those posts say about your character and parenting skills and judgement. Follow the rule that if you were to see your social media posts blown-up as an exhibit in a divorce and/or custody proceeding, and you would be embarrassed by them, do not post them.

Find a Lawyer

Interview lawyers until you find one you can afford and feel comfortable with, and who has the experience to do the best possible job for you. Especially if custody is an issue, you won’t want to try to handle your divorce on your own. Give all your documentation to your divorce lawyer so he or she can use it to help you. Get a cell phone of your own that’s not on your family plan so your contact with your family law lawyer is confidential, and establish an email account to which your spouse doesn’t have access.